Tuesday, 20 April 2010

Mixed Bag

OK, so my internet dating profile has been flirting away in cyberspace for a couple of days now.  But has my painstakingly crafted sales pitch ensnared any desirable men? 

Well, why don't you have a look at a selection of messages I've received.

Oh, so they make sense, I should tell you that my profile starts off with the "Do you look good in shorts?" line and goes on to say how I love rugby (Leeds Carnegie), football (Liverpool), a bit about the bands I like and where I've been travelling.  Mindblowing stuff people.

Message 1

Yes I do look good in shorts (or so I’ve been told!). I also support Liverpool, but I’m more of a rugby league fan than rugby union. Have a look at my profile and if you like what you see then I would love to hear from you.

Message 2

I think you have a lovely smile. Would you like to go out for a drink sometime?

Message 3

Hi, and I’m really sorry if I’ve got the wrong person, but did we used to go to University together? I think we were in the same halls in the first year?

Message 4

Great profile, I really enjoyed reading it. My name is Graham and I work as a project manager. I share a lot of the same interests as you, although I have to admit that I support Leeds United but please don’t hold that against me! It was a great win for Liverpool yesterday. Anyway, if you would like to get in touch it would be great to hear from you.
Take care,

Message 5

Hi there!
Fancy going out for a meal with me? We could go to that new French place in town?

Message 6

I think you very sexy.

Message 7

I only wear shorts on holiday but apparently I have very good legs! The question is, do you look good in shorts?!

Message 8

Hi there, I see from your profile that you don’t like Thunderstorms. Why ever not? They’re amazing!

Message 9

Hi I’m James,
I enjoyed reading your profile very much. If you like what you see in mine then send me a message back!

Message 10

Whatever are you doing on here? A gorgeous, single girl that loves football, rugby and cricket AND has a great taste in music? I’m off down to the gym to go and work on my legs to make sure I’m not embarrassed if I put a pair of shorts on!
I’m Tom, I support Liverpool too and love the Leeds Rhinos (wrong type of rugby I know). I’m 28 and live in Sheffield. I get to most Liverpool home games as I’m lucky enough to be a season ticket holder. Do you get to Anfield much? Anyway I’d love to hear from you!
Bye for now,
There’s a few promising looking messages in there and I’m pleasantly surprised.
But what about the blokes who sent them?
Time to be brutal. 
I discount messages 2, 5 and 6 straight away as I don’t like the look of them and we don’t have much in common, especially the man who wrote “I think you very sexy”. Er, cheers, but you’re about 5ft 2” tall, look a bit like Gollum and seem to have issues with basic grammar. Oh, and you’re old enough to be my Dad!  World of wrong. 

I send a reply to Peter who sent me message number one.  He’s 30, works in sales and lives about 5 miles from me. He’s not bad looking and has very short, shaved blonde hair and a nice smile.  Not drop dead gorgeous but he is quite good looking.  Well, worth a squirt at any rate.

Next up is University boy. And wow, yes I did go to college with him.  He used to hang around with some of the people I knew and I spent the first year lusting after his mate Mikey.  I send him a quick message back confirming that yes I do remember him and ask him what he’s up to these days. I’m not sure if he’s got in touch with me just out of curiosity and to catch up or if he actually does fancy me. Oh well we’ll see.

Message number four from project manager Graham is a nice message to receive, as it shows that he’s read my profile and has taken an interest in some of the things that I like. I check him out and discover that he is 34, lives about 15 miles away, and is a minger. I send a polite reply as I don't want to be rude.

The guy who sent me message number seven is hot, but from the way he’s written his profile I think that he knows it. He’s 6ft1” tall, and has short curly jet black hair, broad shoulders and a gleaming white smile. He has classed his body shape as “Athletic and toned”. So far so good. But after reading his profile I see that we don’t seem to have too much in common. I’m not sure if the fact that he’s only commented on my “shorts” tagline is a good thing though. Has he actually read the rest of my profile, and if he has did he realise that we have nothing else in common? I decide that I’ve got nothing to lose and he is the best looking one yet, so I send him a quick reply saying: “Yes I look great in shorts! As you can see from my profile my legs are my best feature!” It’s getting a bit late and I can’t be arsed to think of anything else to write, especially as he didn’t say much to me.

I ignore message number eight from Will. Why on earth would he pick up on an answer I’ve put in the wanky internet dating section rather than anything else in my profile? Plus, he’s student with ginger hair with a profile so far it’s own arse that I’m surprised I didn’t need a torch to be able to read it. I can’t be bothered with that. Next.

I think that James from message number nine has just sent me a stock message that he must send to everyone that he gets in touch with. I suppose it’s a good time saving device but it is a little bit lazy.  James looks quite cute from the one photo on his profile and I also learn that he is a commodity trader (whatever that means).  It sounds pretty posh though and also pretty lucrative. Ker-ching!  I reply to him and ask him about a trip to Australia that he mentioned in his profile.

Tom from message ten has loads in common with me, but he’s about twenty stone and I just don’t fancy him. I send him one of the stock “Thanks for your message but I’m not interested” replies and then log out.

So all in all a bit of a mixed bag.

I got a load of "winks" too from men who were too lazy to send me a message, but I’m too tired to deal with them or do any searching for myself tonight.

I hope I get some replies to the messages I have sent, but I'm going to bed quite positive about the whole internet dating thing for the first time in my life.

No hot rugby players yet, but I'm sure it's just a matter of time.  Please let me know what you think of the first batch of contenders!


  1. well at least it seemed like you actually did get some proper promising looking emails. though it sucks that sometimes the writer of those just happens to be someone who you wouldn't fancy at all physically. it can be hard. to find someone interesting enough, interested in you enough and attractive enough. so far from this frist batch, seems like peter has the most possible potential...

  2. I love that you shared ALL the messages with us!

    Oh, the polite replies. Give it another two weeks...you'll be sending those out less and less ;)


  3. I am rooting for Peter, lets see how that goes........that university one, was LAME lol

  4. Just based on the messages, I would have gone with 1, 4, and 10. So sad that 4 is a minger and 10 a large whale. Them's the breaks.

    2, 5-9 are either lazy or looking for a shag.

    I'm very sad at you for writing to number 7! I predict that he has an ego the size of small countries ;)

    I'm rooting for Peter too :)

  5. I never bother with the winks. Not just lazy, but cowardly. I'll wink back if they are perfect, otherwise, no.

  6. Some of the messages do look promising, but others... hmmmm. I like that you shared them. Look forward to the next chapter...

  7. I completely agree with Lifebeginsat30.
    Nailed it!

    Funny thing is, after awhile, (it doesn't take long) you'll be able to scan and delete emails solely based on the message they send you, without looking at the profile itself.

    You'll just know(vibe) that men A, B, C are douche bags and want only want to hook up but will tell you what they think you should hear first to butter it up.

    Great thing about the internet, rejection is much easier.

  8. I am getting the biggest kick out of your blog! Those are some pretty decent responses for right out of the gate! Hang in there - I found the love of my life on the internet!

  9. I'm with Fishy, Tom has a season ticket to Anfield, who cares if he is 20 stone.

    At least with him you'll be able to go to Anfield and see Torres & the boys in their shorts!!

  10. Yeah, what's up with the wink?

    That's the kind of thing uncles do at Christmas, pretending to be on the side of the kids.


    :self-disqualifier, that's what it is:

  11. I like that there is a mixed bag; it makes it interesting!

    Shame that you are so against red hair, we're not all mingers but I'll agree, red hair on a man doesn't go down so well. I always say I wouldn't date one because we'd match but it's really because yes, most of them aren't that gifted in the looks department. And black men don't usually have red hair. ;) haha

    Laziness & poor grammar rubbish. You were right to leave them alone.

    I am looking forward to hearing the developments!

  12. I wrote a similar post last year. Have a read of mine and then I can assure you will feel even more positive about the responses you received!!


    Rapunzel x

  13. My initial reaction was 'ooh I like the sound of numbers 1 and 7'! Hope you get some replies to your messages!

  14. Thanks for the comments everyone!

    I'm in agreement with Samantha and Wombat about the whole winking situation. Feeble. I will only wink back if I really, REALLY like the look of them!

    Updates soon....